How to be more likable?
Willing to know how to be or become a more likable person? Are you wondering sometimes if you are a likable person?
How to get someone to like you? And how to get people to like you?
No doubt that, as social people, all of us need to be likable and know that, at least a part from all people around us, do enjoy our presence no matter the place and time, are feeling comfortable being with us, and we always put a smile on their faces.
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And this counts a lot because you can look into the other's eyes like a day with good weather, the one that improves the stamina, makes us more happy and bright in and out!
To be a likable person first you should:
- love yourself and befriend with your own self!
- be genuine and consistent, be YOU! All of us wish as people around to like us, make friends easily and improve our professional relationships, but if this is not a genuine natural inherited capability, then... it requires some work from our side to achieve it.
- socialize, listen, pay attention to others, learn, understand, be empathetic, care, share, give, and receive compliments, and... become a survivor and a likable person!
Now, let's find out some tips for how to become a more likable person and how to feel better in your own skin while surrounded by people!
- To become likable is a long-term project and a way of living for any individual, in personal life, or as a corporate professional.
And the most important step forward to achieve this is to love our person and befriend our own self! Of course, in a normal and decent way, without going to the extreme! :)
Make friends - real friends!
Be spontaneous and surprising (in a positive way), take initiative for common projects, pay attention to what others need, or how they do react, so be empathetic - as long as you feel comfortable in your own skin.
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7 basic steps to be(come) a (more) likable person would be:
1. To always keep a natural smile on your face and show a positive attitude.
2. Never forget to say "hello" and greet people met on your way.
3. Remember names, birthdays, name days, anniversaries, special occasions important to people around you (family, friends, colleagues, etc), remember the names of new persons that you meet - all of us do appreciate it when the other one remembers our name.
4. Listen to what people met have to say, open a conversation, make eye contact (even if you are shy - is nothing to lose), and show interest in the respective topic or conversation.
5. Be respectful but not cold or condescending when an argument may occur - better try to discuss, present your point of view, listen to the other one's as well, and eventually find a solution.
6. Be considerate, direct, reliable, optimistic, and tonic.
7. No pretending, no double-face, no gossip or bad words!
- This is another challenging task for us, and if learning a few easy steps, would become soon a valuable skill.
3 aspects to avoid if you wish to become more likable:
- Do not seek (desperate) attention, no show-off!
- Be open-minded without passing judgment.
- Don't complain!
The best 3 ways to become likable would be to:
1. Empathize, pay attention to the other one and be sincere.
2. Then learn to have a positive attitude and interact following a few simple steps:
- pay attention, be considerate and be helpful - get involved with the other person needs, without neglecting your priorities, showing that you're honestly caring and want to be supportive (without being humble or servant, make a good thing offering pleasure to yourself and to the other person),
- ask questions, get involved, and find common topics, hobbies, or acquaintances - simple things that (without being intrusive) will boost your conversation and make you really likable in the other one's eyes,
- also, open up (a bit) about yourself - share passions, interests, dreams, or plans - watch the other one's reaction and see which topic should be followed to have a common subject or get her/ his interest to discuss further,
- try to spend more (quality) time together, make plans, go on a date, a walk around or a short trip, join an exhibition or theater show, anything that may bring pleasure and is done with no pressure or sort of obligation.
3. Make sincere compliments now and then - they always count for all of us, and bring sparkles in the eyes!
Be yourself, not anybody else... and smile! :)
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